Rescue

•July 29, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Last night I dreamed about a turtle
so very small no one else noticed it.
Against it, a platoon of ants
was waging an offensive:
rush forward, fall back.

The turtle kept running
in a circle
trying to fend off the ant infantry,
which I could see, big as I was
and high as a god, was futile.

Don’t intervene in nature,
my companion said to me,
seeing the intent in my gaze
and reading my thoughts
as dream companions
often do.

But–
I felt the turtle’s fear
its hopelessness at the looming
presence of certain death.
I could not turn away
leaving nature to itself

this turtle, marked for oblivion,
coming to its end
on what I perceive
was a Sunday.

So, I stepped in– God as I was–
during the platoon’s next reprieve.
Plucking up the turtle
in my hand,
it grew larger the closer it was to me
I reckoned

until it was so heavy
I could barely heft it.
Then, before I knew
what would happen
helpless as I am in my dreams,
It bit off my finger–

Nature’s protest
against my help
and my hubris: that I,
god as I am of ants
and turtles
could dare

to dictate the outcome
of something already deemed necessary
by Nature– or my assurance
that I could stop this age-old war
between predator
and prey.

Nature did not want it.
The ants were aligned against it.
Even the turtle was complicit
in its own annihilation.
This reminds me
of the time

You–
when offered escape
from your abuser– said
No. Go away. Everything

is fine.

Elegy on a Divorce

•July 29, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Stifling July.
Rain-bellied clouds build,
agitating the trees.
Their heads peer up at the sky,
expecting suddenness
and light.

The birds have silenced,
wings roofing their nests.
Here comes the whipcrack of lightning
setting off a car alarm.

The wind says, “Hush,”
against the house.
Someone is running for shelter.
Somewhere, a marriage is over.

The man’s wife leaving
strikes him as sudden.
If he will admit it to himself,
for miles off, he has heard
the thunder.

Plenty of time
to prepare.

I can hear the thunder now.
In the distance,
sirens are blaring.
The water oak groans at my window.

Together
the oak and I
wait for the inevitable.

The Loon

•July 29, 2015 • Leave a Comment

Like an echo

the call answers itself

a sound

and a sound

and the ghost of a sound

through the long, dark hallway

of distance between us.

I pause to tap on your closed door.

Like the loon’s call,

my summons

met with silence.

I know what the bird is seeking.

It answers a similar cry within me.

Where are the others of my kind

and what has become of my own kindness?

I hear how alone the loon is

how hopeful for a landing

how fragile its hollow bones

how desperate its wings’ thrum

this migrant:

always journeying

never home.

What My Last Trip to Dairy Queen Taught Me

•January 19, 2015 • 2 Comments

Not only was it date night for old people in hats (and also a Sunday, which could be the reason for so many AARP members in fedoras…) it was also date night with Baby Bird. So, we go to the closest Dairy Queen because Baby Bird says he wants ice cream. He likes cherries and chocolate, just like my dad, and I usually get my staple of cookies and cream unless I really like the special. I don’t know why I’m telling you this, whoever you are, because what I learned has nothing to do with ice cream or people in hats.

As I’m sitting in the booth, facing the corner, there is this sad little evergreen plant on a shelf high above the dining room. It looks like something you’d find in a methadone clinic (not that I’ve been to one) but I feel like I know the place. Somehow, in these clinics, everything ends up looking really greenish, and there are sliding windows between you and the receptionist who sits all smug behind the fingerprint-smudged glass. You know the place: vinyl chairs with hideous patterns that must have been gleaned from a special “Corporate Catalogue of Hideous Patterns” and the floor is this weird, speckly tile, and the walls are almost always white with a pale green tinge, or pale green with a white tinge…anyway, I digress.

This plant looks like it could have been in one of those places that attempts to appear sterile, but only succeeds in looking depressed. Above this plant’s mylar-wrapped pot, there is a light shining down, casting its shadow onto the wall. The point is this: there, in all its reflected glory, was the shadow of this evergreen plant against the beige wall. This shadow was almost as tall as the distance between the floor to the plant– a good six or seven feet. And the shadow looked like this beautiful, needly, full fir tree.

I imagined then that this plant spends hours during the evening looking at this shadow and thinking that this is truly what he looks like.  In his own mind, he’s tall and luscious, and completely full. Pondering this tree, I learned two lessons:

First of all, we all have an image of ourselves as we think we are, which is usually nothing like we actually are. This image sometimes keeps us from learning awful truths about ourselves– namely, that we’re not perfect– okay, so that’s not exactly awful, but it feels that way to some of us (me)– and such a knowledge usually creates the awareness that, in spite of our imperfections, people love us anyway. (This is hard for some *cough* people to grasp, but that doesn’t make it less true.) This image can be a setback because we become completely unable to see who we really are and all our glaring faults (like trying to see yourself as beautiful while looking at your reflection in a mirror with fluorescent overhead lighting) and thus fixing them. But, in another way, this false image also protects us from constantly thinking about all the ways that people find us absolutely intolerable. At least through the image, we can see good things about ourselves and appreciate them.

The second thing I learned from this little plant is that this image that we think defines us is not only an illusion, but it is also lent to us through the particular lighting cast upon it. Without the light overhead filtering through its leaves, this evergreen plant would see nothing at all remarkable about itself. It would just be a potted plant, its view of itself only gleaned from people’s reactions to it, which in most cases, is to completely ignore the plant or to find it insignificant. I mean, really– who pays attention to a little green plant with no flowers, no scent, no ornament? Why in heck should it have a gootree and shadow editedd self image? But does that failure to be recognized mean that this little plant has no value? Nope. It’s sitting there in the corner, high above people’s heads, doing what it was born to do: eating light, photosynthesizing, making oxygen so that people can breathe. You know– living.

But this potted evergreen also teaches us (and when I say us, I mean me) to always try to cast ourselves in the best light possible for others. We should always try to show our best work, and treat any compliments with humility. (“Oh,” the plant says, “this pot? It’s just mylar. I know it’s shiny, but…this old thing?”) And, even if no one but me ever notices that plant, or its shadow, or even appreciates it for what it does for me, personally, and for my entire biological species, it can still look at the wall during the darkening hours between 6:30 p.m. and 10 p.m. and say, “Hey! Look at that! I’m lookin’ good! Yep. Not bad. Not bad at all.”

Incantations Against Oblivion: A Lonely Tree on the Mountain

•December 18, 2014 • Leave a Comment

Like language, you are leaving me, poem,

to my own, lonely devices.

I am the solitary, leafless elm

and you are the rocky hill

upon which this edifice is built.

You–

the cold, white sun between

the black bayonets of trees

so distant are you

and so watchful.

You outshine, and when you sink

below the hilltop

our dark hearts break.

We are all broken boughs

and songless sparrows.

I cry for you in the long dark night

swallowing all our souls.

Our feet wander to and fro over all the pebbled streams

and bouldered hills.

We shoulder our way through the pressing darkness

all the while, praying for dawn.

Hypocrisy

•December 1, 2014 • 1 Comment

I am a hypocrite. There, I said it. I live a double standard.

It’s early afternoon, and I’m dressing.

“I have no idea what to wear,” I say, frustrated at the pile of clothes I have just dumped on the bed after emptying my suitcase after a trip “home” to see my mom. As soon as I sweep in the front door, the cyclone devastation of clothes, shoes, and snotty tissues follows me.

“You could just wear that,” he says, hungrily eyeing my pink sports bra and my black underwear with the pink hearts.

“I hate to be naked. You know that,” I say, without a moment’s hesitation, not even looking at him. And there he is, suddenly shut down, suddenly quiet.

“I know,” he says, defeated. He tells me that it’s a real boost of his self-confidence that his opinion on the matter seems to mean so little to me. All the while, I am assuring him, “This is not about you. It has nothing to do with you.” And it doesn’t. Not really. But still. It seems to him like it does. And maybe, just maybe, he’s right. After he leaves for work, I begin thinking about what my negative self-image must do to him. What it must mean. And even moreso, what it does to me. To us. I’m the kind of girl who can hate herself, her body, what it can do, while still encouraging you to love your own. What a hypocrite. Sure, there are things I could do to make it better. I could get up earlier (“early” isn’t even a word in my vocabulary); I could get in the gym (I already have access to two free gyms); I could eat better food (there’s always tomorrow. Always.); but I don’t. I’m not what anyone would probably call “fat.” I wear my weight well. I get that from my mom. I have an hourglass figure: big breasts and hips, small waist. But I can feel my back fat like arms hugging me when I stand, sit, or drive. I hate that feeling. The feeling that someone is behind me, holding me down to the earth. The clingyness of it all.

I don’t expect perfection from others. I love the curves of other people, my mom’s, my sister’s, my best friend’s, my partner’s, and I love people for their hearts and souls without even considering their bodies at all. I simply cannot give that same love to myself. Despite all my love for human individuality, for my friends and their remarkable personalities and all the things that make them different, I still can’t help but hold up that media-presented image of ideal perfection to myself: a constant overlay like the clear plastic pages in anatomy books that show the human organ systems, one on top of the other, peeling layer by layer until nothing remains but the skeleton. No matter how much I try to look past it, there it is. And, like the skeletal system, that ideal is woven into my bones. Even though it’s the story plots and characters I watch, I can’t help but notice that no one on my favorite shows looks like me. Paunch on a man might be acceptable, but nowhere is there a woman who isn’t skinny, with taut muscles and shiny, perfect skin. Certainly not one who survives the zombie apocalypse. My favorite television show whispers quietly to me that women like me don’t survive: women with imperfect skin and wobbly bellies, lax arm muscles and crooked knees. It isn’t just that message that women like me don’t survive, but more that they shouldn’t survive: that they’re not worth saving.  Even though, statistically and biologically, women like me have a much stronger chance of survival because we have more fat and more insulation and fewer muscles to feed feed feed—it still doesn’t register. The Hollywood ideal is still too firmly ingrained in me from years of watching the stories Americans tell each other on TV. I can run myself down for my lack of muscle tone or taut belly, all while loving people for who they are and willing them to survive and thrive no matter what they look like. So why can’t I accept this imperfection in myself? Why can’t I love the body that carries me and feels things and makes my heart beat and my brain think and my soul love? Why can’t I just get over it?

 

I return, then, to the thought of what my partner must feel every time I put myself down. I’m telling myself to get get get to the gym, to tow some weights, to run some hills. What he wants to do is cuddle down with me on the bed in front of the television, to have a delicious, fattening dinner with me, or to whisper nerdy stuff into my hair as we hold each other, wobbly bits and bubbly folds to folds. But I can’t hear him so often because of the insane buzz buzz buzz in my head telling me to be better. Telling me to do do DO. Still, I’m smart enough to know that even though I have the capability to do, certain things happen if I actually begin to do all the things I say. More time in the gym is less time spent with those I love. It’s less time spent with writing, with my friends, in conversation. And the more I bulk up and tone down, in essence, the lonelier I become: because all these things I want to do, believe I should do, are solitary things I must do alone and away from those for whom I claim I’m doing them.

Also, the “better” I get in my own mind, the more likely others are to drift away from me: to feel “left” in some way as I try to get better and better, running faster and faster, leaving them behind. Not only have I left them in my mind (because I’m busy thinking about all the things that must be done, that won’t get done unless I absolutely do them myself, and RIGHT NOW), I’ve left them emotionally, because if something is standing in the way between me and a task, I’m like a fucking bloodhound and get out of my way out of my way out of my way until I can Finish. It.

In my mind, there will always be time to hold my partner, laugh with my sister, watch terrible reality TV with my parents. But…there isn’t. We are all getting older. My parents are getting older. Eventually, they will die, and I will no longer be able to run home to mommy when things aren’t going my way. People grow apart. People leave. Things change. And already, so often, I’m stuck somewhere, alone, doing something that, in the end, doesn’t fucking matter. My sister and her husband are going to dinners and on vacations without me and my partner. We watch the same TV shows in the same house but at different times and in different rooms. My partner goes to work alone and comes home alone after hours to find me sitting at my computer working at something that I am constantly running after and never catching. I can’t slow down. I can’t stop. If I do, something will catch up to me, surpass me, bowl me over. If I stop, I’ll get behind. I’ll let someone down. Something bad will happen. But…something bad is already happening. And I’m already letting someone down. Someone very special to me. And I’m letting myself down, too.

All because I keep on chasing an ideal I’ll never reach: perfection. The thing about perfection is this: it’s deceptive. It tells you that if you are perfect, you’ll have everything you need and everything you want. You’ll have friends who love being around you because you always know what to do and look so good. They’ll bask in the glow of you and your perfection. You’ll have money because you’ll know exactly what opportunities to take and exactly how to make things happen. You’ll be a leader because you’ll be strong and even ruthless when you need to be. But…here’s the truth. Perfection is the embodiment of loneliness. To be perfect means that you will be perfect all by your little lonesome. The truth is that your perfection will make others feel bad about themselves. They’ll assume you view everyone else through a perfect lens and that they’ll never, ever, measure up. They’ll shy away from you because they don’t like standing in the mirror of your complete perfection. People will see your perfection and assume, wrongfully, that you have all the friends you need and so what would you want with them anyway? You’ll be unable to think of anyone to call for help, because, as a perfect person, you don’t need help anyway. You’ve got this. Your capability is perfect. You don’t need anyone. As a perfect leader, people will follow you, sure, but you will always be looking forward, and won’t be able to hear their whispers about you behind your back. It may be whispers of admiration, but chances are, it will be more along the lines of, “who does she think she is anyway?” In your inimitible quest for perfection, you will sacrifice. Sacrifice time with friends and family, time with your partner, time with nature. You’ll get up that extra hour early and hit the gym, maybe even while the world is sleeping, but your lover, who probably won’t feel as compelled toward perfection as you, will be sleeping alone in a different room. Possibly even dreaming of someone else. Someone who makes them feel more perfect. As a perfect writer, your writing is so perfect that everyone stops sharing their writing with you. Suddenly, nothing they could ever express could be as meaningful and as perfect as what you are currently expressing right now. And so, they will wall themselves off, refusing to share their feelings, their writing, their dreams, because their dreams are full of imperfections and vulnerabilities. You find yourself removed from the world you live in, always outside the flow of things, because you’re too perfect to put yourself in a position where there is even a remote likelihood of drowning. Perfection casts a shadow over everyone else, and because it’s something you achieve alone, it’s something you will live in…alone.

And still. Even though I know this, and tell myself this, over and over, I cannot escape the enticing promises of perfection. There is still that overlay, that desire, burning inside me to always be better…do better. No matter what I do, it’s never enough. And if I am never enough, my partner thinks, “what’s to make her think I am enough?” I have now effectively transferred my self-doubt to my partner, who, this morning, was quite happy just to be alive, just to have me home again, but now feels my weight. Not my actual weight, but the mental weight of my constant, unattainable desire for perfection at all costs. He smiles at me and says it’s okay, but there’s this deep pain there that I can never fully eradicate. Once again, I’ve broken something, because I feel I must be perfect instead of simply be. Everything I have worked to build could be crushed by my perfect hands. How does this make my partner feel? My lover? The man who tells me, “You may not be perfect, but you’re perfect for me”? I push him away, refusing to let him love me because I cannot love myself. My words say one thing, “I love you. You love me. That’s all that matters!” But my actions reveal me as a true hypocrite.

“Fine,” my actions say, “if the world doesn’t punish me for my imperfection, I will.”

 

And so, this morning, when my partner compliments me, I can only hear it, perceive it, through the overlay of perfection that films my eyes. He says, “I think you’re perfect, just the way you are.”

“Yes,” I say. “But…”

Struggle

•September 17, 2014 • 1 Comment

As some people may know, recently I have been struggling more than normal with living in a world dominated by Christian thought and principles. I have made more Facebook comments than normal, even though, usually, I refrain, knowing that the comments won’t make any difference one way or another. I suppose to some people that I come across as bitter…I’m not exactly. I’m just more than a little angry lately that Christians can advertise their beliefs wherever they want, while I am restricted from doing so. This isn’t really a new thing. The concept of everything mainstream being accepted and everything “other” being vilified is something that every era of human history has in common with another. However, that being said, I find that as I get older, it gets harder and harder to just “suck it up” and “deal with it.” So, in answer, I’ve contributed more of my thought lately to Facebook posts that cause me irritation than I used to. So far, most of the threads in which my opinion has been rendered have been deleted. Particularly those that make valid points about how militant, warmongering and unforgiving Christianity’s tenets can be. I’ve elaborated on my disdain for the religion because of what it causes people to do to one another. So far, I’ve been called a bigot, an idiot, a dummy… I’ve been accused of wanting to see the demise of Christians and their faith (which is not true, I simply want them to allow for other opinions and give those opinions the respect that they themselves expect as Christians).

I have before written in blog posts about my beliefs, or rather my inability to forgive the Christian religion for its dark history and its trespasses against humanity (e.g. the Crusades, the Inquisition, the Witch Burnings, the Old Testament supported genocides, the coming of an Apocalypse in which all people who disagree with Christian tenets will be severely murdered) and the things those who typically follow the doctrine end up being forced to support: the denying certain people their equality because of their sexual orientation, color or gender; the doctrine’s desire to take away a woman’s choices regarding her own body; the tendency toward keeping the white male in supreme dominance over everyone else as is evident by the white male’s total dominance in government; the desire to kill or destroy those who practice Islam by claiming it to be full of only militants who demand America’s demise; the latent belief that women are not as capable as men at leading; or even that women are responsible for the sin and downfall of the world and should be avoided (Thanks, Paul the Apostle), etc. ad nauseum. BUT, for me, the way I feel, the hatred I have for such a vicious religion as Christianity, has nothing to do with God. Not really. I’m an atheist, sure. I don’t believe there is anything after death, or that there is a god who cares about us individually. I do not hate the idea of a God. I don’t hate people who believe in God, and I don’t hate Christians even though I despise most facets of Christianity itself. (Although the quotes on the love of money being the root of all evil or doing good to those who despise you I can agree with.) I remove that idea of Christianity from the people who practice it because most, if not all, of the Christians I know are excellent people who want to help others and who rely on the “grace” portion of Christianity to get them through life, without thinking about all the rest. I don’t think these people are idiots, or dummies, or bigots. I think sometimes that they willfully close their eyes to certain truths that are too painful for them to digest, as all of us are wont to do.

For example, there can be no doubt of all the terrible things the Christian God did to other races in the Old Testament. The murder of people is one of the core staples of the Old Testament. It cannot be denied that the Old Testament supports and encourages this murder, endorses slavery, denies those with afflictions from God’s temple, or even condones rape. It cannot be denied that the only two books in the Old Testament by women support the idea that a woman is either a.) a good wife to a man or b.) a prostitute in some version or another (Ruth vs. Esther). Those things are in the Bible in black and white. But, if you mention these to a Christian, the doctrine tells them to ignore those things, and to say that we live in the Age of Grace and that we don’t need those laws anymore because Jesus died for us. That’s a convenient way to sidestep the issue. However, my question is, why did we need those severe laws in the first place? Why would any benevolent leader allow children to be murdered, and even command it? Why would someone who has sex with his daughters, or commits the act of incest be among God’s chosen emissaries? Why did we need laws that stated a man should be put to death for gathering sticks on the Sabbath? Why should not a benevolent leader speak out against slavery instead of saying that a slave that does not do his master’s will by accident will receive few stripes while a slave that does not do his master’s will on purpose will receive many? Why not denounce the act of slavery altogether? These are my questions. Why would anyone follow a leader who commands so much massacre and violence in the first place? Forget whether or not Jesus was put to death to bridge the gap between a mean, jealous God and us, and tell me why he was mean and jealous in the first place!

An easy way out is to tout free will. To say if we had not sinned, God would be nice to us. However, so many things God did involved an erosion of a person’s free will. Such as when he hardened pharaoh’s heart so that he would not let the Jews go. Pharaoh didn’t decide that. God did. And even Jesus himself says that he did not come to “bring peace, but a sword.” WHY is Christianity so violent? It’s violent because the people who created it were violent. That was the way life was back then. Why cannot humanity’s involvement in creating Christianity be acknowledged by its followers? What kind of God urges his followers to follow blindly with faith, ignoring all reason? Who would follow a human leader like that? No one! And those who did cause terrible things to happen (i.e. the Germans following Hitler).

This is what I hate about it. And, in my opinion, any moral person SHOULD find these things disgusting. Any person with a moral nature should reel in horror at the things mentioned in the Old Testament as the works of God. Drowning the entire Earth’s population except for one man (and his family) who was a drunk and a lecher? Burning and destroy the whole towns of Sodom and Gomorrah including the babies and the children who have had no chance to even make choices? Even Lot, who survived, had sex with his own daughters! And he was considered godly? Killing David’s newborn baby to punish him for killing Bathsheba’s husband? Making this man the greatest king in recorded biblical history, despite his murderous tendencies? There are MANY people in the world today who would never think of killing anyone, even if they did covet another person’s wife. What about them? Why aren’t they God’s examples?

I’m not saying any of this to try to convince anyone that their religion is wrong. I’m saying this to explain why I, personally, cannot believe in it. Morally, I recoil at the idea that any race should be put to death, whether they were the Midianites or the Muslims or the Jews OR the Christians. I cannot justify Christianity’s dark history in my mind nor in my heart. I cannot “forgive” a religion that causes so much infighting and destruction while humanity tries to reason out its principles. (This goes for Islam, Judaism or any monotheistic or polytheistic religion that fits this category.) I simply cannot do it.

I’m not angry with God. That would be like me being angry at Santa Claus, who I also do not believe exists. I’m not angry at spiritualism that says there’s more to the Universe than just science and flesh and bone. I think that would be neat, even though, personally I haven’t seen much to indicate there’s a deity out there. It would still be cool if there were a nice one to help me in my day to day life. I’m not angry at Christians, who are mostly good people, at least if they are serious about their faith, who want to do good and want to save the world from evil. I’m angry at the doctrine. The doctrine that says that “If you are not with me, you are against me!” (Would it work the same way to say, “If you are not against me, then you must be with me?” I think not.) I’m angry at the doctrine that says it’s wrong to be gay, even if you’re a good person and you were born that way, and that therefore your lifestyle and person must be vilified and your choices taken from you. I’m against the doctrine that forbids people who believe in Christianity from being “unequally yoked” with those who do not believe, thus forcing Christians to be judgmental in that way. I’m against a doctrine that says “Judge not lest ye be judged,” but in the same breath advises its followers to “be aware of wolves in sheep’s clothing” and “false prophets” which makes it impossible for a Christian to then be non judgmental. I’m angry at a doctrine that sets us up to fail and then continually focuses on our failures and constantly touts us as weak and unable to be good people without some kind of threat of fire and brimstone or eternal suffering. I’m angry at a doctrine that causes people who would normally like each other and get along fine to be constantly wary of each other an unable to trust. I’m angry at a doctrine that vilifies Jews or any other race/religion as less than, or worthy of slaughter. I’m angry at all the things Christianity has made possible, at least, in the sense that it has allowed others to hide behind its tenets in order to commit their evil deeds.

If you are a Christian and you are my friend, then rest assured I am not saying you are not a good person because you’re a Christian, or that I consider you less of a friend. I base my friendships on how people treat me and how they treat others. My inability to believe in your religion is in no way intended to belittle you or to say that you are obviously misled or uneducated. My inability to believe in your religion and to forgive Christianity’s dark and dangerous past isn’t personal, or about YOU in any way. If you feel I’ve stayed away from you, it’s only because I have not wanted to offend you by my presence, which makes some Christians uncomfortable, knowing they have an atheist in their midst.

I am trying to avoid posting my thoughts on religion on your “private threads” or comments or posts. Not because I think that Christianity is benevolent and moral, but because it makes it hard on other people (in my family especially) for their friends and other family members to know the truth about me. I, for one, though, am tired of being forced to keep silent for fear that Christians as a whole will be offended by what I have to say. I get offended by Christianity in one form or another every day. Not because of God, but because of the doctrine which I feel is oppositional, judgmental and unfair. Because of a society that insists that the Christian God, as doctrine has come to define him, is moral and will save us from our doom. BUT, that said, I am going to tone it down because my personal beliefs put those I care about in danger of alienation or ridicule by those in the Christian majority. As for my Christian friends, those who are close to me know intimately my problems with Christianity as a whole. Many of them have the same questions and irritations that I do. Those Christians realize that there is a difference between the God they believe in and the God as Christianity has come to define him. They are not threatened by my beliefs. Their God is fair and righteous and full of grace. In fact, most of the time, I’m convinced that theirs is a different God altogether, one that is much more worthy of praise and admiration. There are also those who desire to be willfully offended. They will intentionally mistake my words and twist my complaints in the light most favorable to the doctrine of their choice. That’s fine. I can’t please everybody. To those of you who are my friends, though, rest assured that I am not out to destroy your faith. I believe you should be allowed to practice it in whichever way is suitable to you. I will go to bat for your rights to practice Christianity, so long as it stays out of government and avoids trying to insinuate itself into places where it does not belong (such as legislation). I feel the same way about Satanism, Islam, Buddhism, Jainism, Hinduism, Judaism, or any other religion that seeks to influence public policy in its favor. So, Christianity, don’t assume that you are being persecuted simply because you are being held to the same standard as everyone else. Fair is fair.